I never thought i'd writing a Fiancé cheated with a stripper at her bachelorette party story, But after discovering what happened with a stripper, I told her we are done "So I Called Off the Wedding" Its Not just a story of betrayal but showing how exactly karma works, how she break the trust, how i cancelled the wedding and ending the engagement, how she acted as an unfaithful partner and the whole infidelity story along with the consequences.
Bachelorette Party Stripper Cheating:
Hello,
I would like to share with you my story. I am 25M, fiancé 24F. Lets call us James and Suzy. We were dating in college, got engaged and started living together right after graduation. We were together for nearly 6 years.
We were from the same town, but had never met before. I was friends with her brother Peter who was one year my senior. Let me start with some back story first.
So, we made it to the same college and were invited by her brother to the homecoming party upon our arrival. I arrived a couple of hours earlier, because Peter asked me to help with the party’s set up. I was sitting on the couch with him when two beautiful girls arrived. Peter jumps on his feet and points the first one at me, Joan, this is James, a good friend of mine from my hometown, you might want to meet him while he is still single.
The girl looked at me like I'm some low life and said,
«Yes he is kind of cute, but in a nice guy kind of way».
-Hey that’s hurt, I responded! I was kind of pissed off, I stood and said jokingly,
«Well I guess I will take my Adonis body elsewhere» and went to grab some beer.
5 to 10 minutes later a beautiful redhead entered, I went to her to introduce myself, told her my name was James, she told me her name was Suzy. We had some small talk and I added that I am from a small town 4 hour drive away. She said that she’s from that town also and it is not really a small town. We had a friendly discussion about our town and I finally said that I have to agree with her, a town of 15 to 20 thousand people is not a small town. Whatever, I love to have that argument with her, love how she was defending our town, love her voice with that little fury in it, in short, she already had my heart.
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She then asked me who invited me to the party, I told her that it was Peter, a friend from our home town; you might know him, I added. She responded that of course she knows him, he is her big brother. We talked a little more and when she excused herself to the bathroom, Joan came back to talk to me.
Sorry to have been a little rude she said, it was not intentional can we start over? I responded that it was no big deal and to forget about it, then excuse myself and left to talk to Peter.
-Hey Peter, I met your sister, I told him.
-Yes I have seen you two, be careful, it's my little sister.
-Don't worry, my intentions are pure, I might marry her if she wants me.
-Just like that Peter asked?
-Yes, just like that I responded? If she wants me.
I ended up talking to Suzy during the whole party, and walked her to her dorm. We exchanged phone numbers and I kissed her on the cheek. We started dating right after and I learned that Joan was a good friend of Suzy.
She was always hanging with us, flirting with me, joking about being the first one who had seen me, or me never giving her a chance etc. It made me feel uncomfortable, but she was a good friend of Suzy and it was hard not to have her around.
About three months into dating we had our first fight, Suzy asked me to be exclusive. What! Are you serious, I responded?
-Yes, we've been together for the last 3 months, she said, and it is time to take the next step.
-I'm out! I responded, we are done, I tried to stand but she grabbed my harm.
-Wait James, if you're not ready to become exclusive I can wait. I sit back. I was visibly angry, but was able to control my speech, then said;
-We have chosen ourselves to be boyfriend and girlfriend. It is a relationship, not a hookup and a relationship is always exclusive. For me, you are in a relationship or you’re not. A non-exclusive relationship is not a relationship at all. If you asked me to be exclusive now, it means that you were not since the beginning of our dating.
She responded that she was 100% exclusive and fateful to me; she totally agreed with me on relationships, you are in or out.
I then asked her why she asked me to be exclusive, if for her we were in an exclusive situation already. I questioned if she planned to date other people in the future?
She responded no, that I am the only one. She added that her friends told her that men are basically pigs and will cheat if they have the occasion, and she should get straight with me that we are exclusive.
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Our Love Story:
I responded to Suzy that I love her and all the other girls were nonexistent the minute we were dating.
Maybe a month after that we had another fight. I was working in a restaurant on Friday night from 6PM to 11PM and Saturday from 1PM to 8PM. She was complaining and wanted to go to girls' nights out and party on Friday night. I told her no, there is no going to a bar or a party without her boyfriend. She replied that nothing bad will happen, I can trust her. I replied that it's not her that I don't trust; it's the guy that will be hitting on her. that breaking trust.
-You think that I cannot resist, she responded? You don't have to feel insecure about that, she added.
I tried to explain that we met at a party. That parties and bars are the preferred places for single people to meet. She may not cheat the first time, but her friends are single. They will encounter singles males who will naturally want to hang out with a group of single females. She will find herself talking to the one of their friends that's left alone and with time things can escalate. Why submit herself to that kind of temptation?
She was furious, saying that I don't own her, I don't trust her and that is only my insecurity talking.
Look, I said, if you want to go, just go. But if you want to act single, you should be single. I can see that you're not ready for a serious relationship and certainly not for marriage, good luck, have a good life. Then I left. She went after me, crying I can't believe you're breaking up over that? F...you.
I just keep walking without a glance back at her. Inside I was crushed. She tried to phone me and texted me, but I turned my phone off. The next day was a Friday; I went for my usual day at college and went to work after. At 11PM my shift ended and as I was leaving the restaurant, she was there waiting for me. We talked a lot, went to grab coffee and donuts, and went to my place. After being intimate, she said that she doesn't want us to have a fight again. We reconnected, talked again and made love again.
In the morning she confessed that she was out of line getting upset by my reaction and that she didn't really want to go to the party in the first place. It was to please her friends and to show them that she is an independent woman, freed from any toxic masculinity.
You know, I responded, the same applied to me. Bars are places of temptation, made for people to meet, socialize and more. It is out of line to go to such places without my fiancé. Am I your fiancé now, she enquired? Well my soon to be fiancé, I technically need to give you a ring and ask your father.
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Time To Get Married:
After the last fight, things moved fast. I loved her, she loved me, I asked her father for her hand, we moved together. All that in our first year of college. After graduation, I continued with a master's in accounting, she went to work in a big firm in data entry.
When I finished my master's, we decided to get married. We have been together for six years. After the initial somewhat rocky start, we were fully happy and deeply in love. My parents helped us a lot, so financially we were alright. They own an 8 unit apartment building; we were able to live in one of the units at a great price, that's how we could afford it as students. Now that we have announced our wedding, my parents told us that they have put every monthly rent of our apartment in a special account for our marriage. The total amount is ours now, so we can have our dream wedding, without the financial trauma.
We were in total shock, tears of joy flowed from me, Suzy and my parents. I have the best parents in the world, the best fiancé and the best life. I was really in heaven and that was not all. My dad wanted to talk to me man to man in the morning. He said that now that I'm getting married, the compound will be mine. He did the same for my sister two years before, and said that it is my turn now. He and my mother wanted to give us our inheritance before their death, saying that it is now that we will be more in need of the money. They informed me that there is no more inheritance after their deaths, so be careful and wise.
But my father insisted that I signed a prenuptial agreement with my fiancé before the wedding. If I don't, I will receive the apartment compound only at the death of my parents. They said that they work hard to give their children a great start in life. They cannot risk seeing that wasted in a divorce settlement.
Both my parents are lawyers, and both are successful. They don't flash their money, my mother drives a Camry, my father an Highlander, while the others lawyers at their firm drive BMW, Audi or Mercedes. They know the value of money, but are not tied to it. They bought our family house the first year of their marriage, and bought two apartment compounds for me and my sister, over the years.
The prenup was not a big deal for my fiancé, she signed with no question and no drama. She understood perfectly and believed that it was fair.
We started immediately planning our wedding and honeymoon, life was a dream, the amount in my parent's marriage account was more than enough for us to afford a big wedding and a reasonable honeymoon. My fiancé's parents take charge of the bride's dress, the maidens' dresses, flowers and wedding bands.
We had our bachelor and bachelorette party 3 weeks before the cancelled wedding; we rented two nearby cabins by the lake, one for the boys, one for the girls. The cabins were on the same lake, but about 15 minutes apart.
The bachelor party rules were simple, the boys and the girls had separate parties. They are not allowed to mix. No phone, all communications only via the best man and maiden of honor phones. And no strippers, female or male.
My best man was her brother Peter and the maid of honor was Peter's girlfriend. I was going to be with my friends all day, water skiing during the day, a big fancy restaurant in the evening, back at the cabin, play video games and get wasted.
I didn't really know what the girls were up to, I figured it was something similar to us, with probably some shopping on top. Boy was I wrong.
The Moment I Found Out About The Bachelorette Party Betrayal:
Around 11:30 PM, Peter's girlfriend came to our cabin and went to talk to him in private. We were almost wasted at the time, but her sudden return had a sobering effect on me. She was at the bachelorette party; it cannot be good that she left early. All guys at my bachelor probably came to the same conclusion at the same time, the mood of the party shifted to funeral mode.
My best man Peter, returned with his girlfriend, saying he is sorry and that he already transferred to me the content of the phone he was handing me. I reluctantly took his phone, it had a photo showing my fiancé with two naked bachelorette party strippers, holding their D in each hand, and a video of her kissing one of them. There were other pictures and one video, but I have seen enough. I went to the bathroom, threw up in the bowl and cried. 20 minutes later, I decided that was enough, I washed my face, got out of the room and texted everybody we know that the wedding was off as i called off wedding for cheating, along with the photos and video of the bachelorette.
My friends were asking me if I was alright. I snapped at them ''Take a gues, how do you think I feel?'' I apologised and said that I'm going back home. Peter said there is no way he is gonna let me take a 2 hours drive at night with all the alcohol in my blood, he will drive me home. I can see that he was hurt too. He can see the deception of Suzy, but he is her brother and has become my best friend over the years. He insisted on taking his car, I was in the passenger seat, his girlfriend took the backseats.
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Not 10 minutes after my phone was blowing off. Mostly calls from Suzy, my now ex-fiancé, but also my parents and my ex's parents. I only called back my parents and explained everything, saying that I was heading back home. They said that they will meet me there.
We arrived at my apartment building at 4AM, my parents were waiting for me in the lobby. I fell into their harm and immediately went to my apartment and started to throw her clothes out, ''Wait, said my father, don't damage her things. You had to do this in the best way possible to be on better ground if later anything got ugly.
Bachelorette Party Consequences:
He went to the basement of the units and came with some card boxes, told us to pack her things nicely in them and take a picture of each box. He left and came back with one of his friends with a pickup truck and more boxes. In less than 2 hours we erased all the traces of my ex-fiancé. All her things were in the truck, all pictures, personal items, even food. Nothing of my ex remained in the apartment.
It was 7:30Am when my dad instructed his friend to drop the boxes at my ex-in-law's house, he called first to inform them of the situation. They have been talking to my ex-fiancé, almost nonstop, for the last two hours, so they knew exactly what was going on.
My ex-fiancé arrived about 30 minutes later, alone in a car. She was not drunk, but you can visibly tell she was under the influence of alcohol. I can't believe she took her car at night in that condition, but again, I was going to do the same earlier, if it was not for Peter stepping in. She was crying, tried to explain herself, told me that the strippers were not supposed to be part of the bachelorette and her friend set her up. I didn't want to hear any of her excuses, for me it was only BS.
At one point my dad took me outside with my best man and told us that we better find a restaurant to have breakfast and finish the discussion. Peter did not want to come with us, so he stayed with my mom, my ex and his girlfriend in the apartment.
When we returned, my ex was not there. My mom told me that her parents came to pick her up. The girlfriend of Peter, explained to me what happened at the bachelorette, according to her, it was all the result of the friends of my fiancé's actions. They arranged for the strippers to be present for fiance cheat at bachelorette party, and were cheering to encourage the women to step out of line. Especially with my fiancé, saying that it is her last time to be free, she should not hold back, those parties are made for that etc. The bachelorette rapidly became uncontrollable, she felt uncomfortable and left.
After that, my brain back paddled and I started to relive my time with Suzy. I realised that her friend Joan was always working in the shadows to sabotage our relationship.
Early when we started dating, she was the one behind all our big arguments, the asking to be exclusive, the parties, the girls night out. She always tried to hit on me, joking by saying things like she was the one that had seen me first or Suzy didn't deserve someone like me. I could see now that it was always to end our relationship so she could take over. Well she has succeeded to end us now, but she will not have me, never. Not even as a friend.
Conclusion:
As for Suzy, I can see that she was influenced and set up to cheat. But it was her choice to take those D in her hand and kiss these strippers. I don't want to know if there is anything more, it hurts enough already. Most of the money spent for the cancelled wedding will not be refundable so close to the date, but we will not be getting married.
Recovering from infidelity is not easy, but for me, cheating at a party was he final straw. There will be no reconciliation, we are done. I cannot trust her to be my wife. For the better or the worse it is supposed to be....I know that she will not support me from the worst, so it's over, period.
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