Betrayal is not an habit, its like the person is gamble with their life, In Starting it might feels like betraying someone is winning but in reality its the opposite. At Cheaters Karma, We show how betrayal is an expensive debt that eventually collects interest. The Cheaters peace is actually gone the day they started to cheat their partner for a little bit of fun or good time, they forget that their 20% fun is risking their 80% good and healthy relationship with the person who do anything for them, but that's what we're addressing the hidden cost of betrayal as infidelity in a relationship effects the peace of not just the cheater but their partner too.
The Introduction:
The aftermath of infidelity comes with a lot of consequences, It often looks like the cheater had won, they might get a new partner to spend some good time, they might having fun meeting someone new behind their partner's back but the harsh about cheating in a relationship is that the person who cheat on their partner feels the guilt of it from the starting and fully know about what they're doing and what will happen when their little cute secret will be revealed. They certainly knows the aftermath and consequences of that but to satisfy their internal peace they don't pay much attention to that.
While the betrayed partner work on healing and try to handle them self, the cheater also enter on the phase where they feel alone, silently feeling like trapped in a cage/prison alone and its not just about their broken home but also their broken life after the betrayal.
The Paranoia Paradox:
The moment the cheating partner lie in a relationship is the moment when the marriage is over and if all that for meeting and having a relationship with someone else then its just so over. Meaning they lost their interest in you, they lost their love for you and they break their own ability to trust as in such relationship there is no more trust in this.
logic behind that if they can cheat you behind your back and looking at your eyes everyday with same intentions of cheating, the karma will get back to them one day too, One thing mostly common in cheaters that they suddenly become more private and suspicious, Not just they started lying on your face but also try to control you like ( i am tired now don't talk to me, i am hungry make me food, stop looking at my phone, i am going outside don't call me ) and more ways try to handle you in a way that feels like something is off with them and they are not the same person you knew them earlier.
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The Erosion of Self-Respect:
One thing common in most cheaters as they always think that they are good person And not the villain, they just convince themselves that whatever they are doing is good and they aren't doing anything bad but in reality they try to convince their ego during infidelity and lying and as the time passes by it creates a Cognitive Dissonance which fully convert their thoughts and they feel more confidence in cheating in a relationship.
Their is no proper and valid justification of their betrayal but because of Cognitive Dissonance they only thought that whatever they doing is right and keep lying to themselves, just to justify their actions, but Eventually, that lie becomes exhausting and the moment comes too when they stand in front of the mirror they are not be able to recognize them selves as they have been completely changed but they certainly forgot about the hidden cost of betrayal that would eventually happens to all of them at the end.
The "Affair Fog" Hangover
The most important and satisfying moment in a cheating affair is the honeymoon phase where the person stop thinking about their partner and totally enjoy the moment with their affair partner, they almost forgot that what if their secret is revealed And what if their happy dream broke and their infidelity becomes a joke, but instead of all this fear they forced to enjoy the happy and lovely moments with their new partner.
The thrill of romance and happy times gets abandoned when they started paying lawyers fees as the cost of betrayal. The parents Disappoinment hurts them a lot, the battle of custody broke them completely, they can't look at their partner no more the way they were used to look at them, as they realized their massive mistake and according to the " STATISTICS " Show's that Most of the relationship ends up because of infidelity because they are not started based on foundation of character, they started on love and romance and as the time passes, in some cases one of the partner starting loosing interest but most cases both loss interest in each other and end up having an affair.
Your Peace is the Only True Revenge:
The most tragic thing happens to the cheater isn't just loosing their house or partner or family but the depression and loneliness as they have to pay the hidden cost of betrayal which they didn't think about during the infidelity, Its the time when your cheating partner is running not from yourself but also from themselves as well, as they are afraid and shy with guilty to show their face to anyone after what they did.
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Here's an Case Study about a wife whom whole life destroyed after her cheating.
Alexa's Infidelity Story:
After Alexa gave birth to her 3rd son, her husband jake was very happy. but as the time passed by, she was not satisfied with her family and even not interested in spending much time with her husband, so she joins a parlor for time pass. but one day when she was coming back, she saw that in front of the parlor she working on there's a Pet shop where she See's a very handsome guy around her age, stylish and attractive, she started flirting with him.
As the time passes they both started to meet each other spending time at parks going for dinner, starting sleeping together and enjoy their life but one day her husband ( jake ) saw both of them at the park where they both sit together, holding hands looks like a couple, he followed them and find out that his wife is sleeping with this guy, after she came back home she find out that her husband knew about her affair and they end up having a divorce, she won her newly born son custody but both other sons goes back to her husband, after that day she moved back to her parents home but she barely leave the house now, and stopping meet others and eventually because of the shame she lives in her parents home and that's all because of the infidelity she was happily doing.
Moral of the story is that cheater having a good time before but after its just misery and guilt, and the partner of the cheater also having a hard time handling themselves but they know that karma will come back to them.
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FAQ:
Here's few questions, we love to hear the answers from you guys,
1. Do cheaters ever feel bad years later?
2. Can a cheater ever find peace?
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