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How Do Cheaters Justify Their Actions? The Sick Psychology of Betrayal

There's a painful question comes in every betrayed partner mind that How do cheaters justify their actions, How could they do this and act like nothing happened? they make an image of themselves as a victim in such case and expect their betrayed partner to understand and compromise.

The Reality and truth is that the cheaters hardly seem themselves as a bad guy, because in their minds they make a story where whatever they did is reasonable and they only think that its fine to do everything because They rewrite reality in their mind totally to protect their own ego, and to justify their actions as for good cause.

In this article you are going to learn the exact psychological tricks used during an affair so you can spot the signs of cheating and betrayal and stop gaslighting, and during reading this article all your doubts are going to clear.

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Cognitive Dissonance & Compartmentalization:

The cheater keeps thinking about basically two main things that's the basic Psychology of a cheater which are i am a good person, vs. i am betraying my partner and in the cheaters head its a complete chaos about what should he believes the most, and those thoughts giving him mental discomfort and he can't agree on a single thing.

And To understand this scenario, Here's a literal explanation, as the cheater make 2 different boxes in the mind and on one box cheater put their relationship (real partner) and meanwhile the other box if for the affair partner and that's how they make a mental wall between others in their own mind.

That's the main reason they can cheat so freely, as it gives them a proper setup which allows them to love their spouse and spend time with them at 8:00 PM and Cheat with affair partner at 11:00 PM without feeling guilty at all and that's how they satisfying themselves of excuses for infidelity.

The Top 6 Lies Cheaters Tell Themselves:

• We were already broken anyway: how they trying to show that we were already broken and our love was over long time ago to make the cheating look like a natural escape route.
• You drove me to do this: Playing the victim card and blaming the spouse ( you don't pay attention to me ) or ( you didn't love me ) just to satisfy themself and to shift the moral guilt onto the victim and that's the reason why do cheaters blame the victim.
• What they don't know won't hurt them: Keep convincing themselves that if no one ever knows about this or their secret never gets out, then no one going to get hurt and everything will be fine.
• It’s not real cheating: that's the most bad lie of the cheater which shows the main Psychology of a cheater as how they make their own rules, like, ( its not an emotional affair, we are just friends, we haven't spent time together, we didn't touch, or " it was just the text messages) just to avoid the "cheater" label and to satisfy themselves 
• It was a mistake/Moment of weakness: How instead of accepting their mistake, they started to act dumb and blaming other factors just to prove that they aren't guilty and it wasn't their fault, like ( because of work stress, because i was drunk/alcohol, because of the heat of the moment, etc) 
• I deserve to be happy: how they acting like i want to enjoy my life and i deserve to be happy too, and what if i did some fun with others can't i be happy, and just to satisfy their needs they use the compartmentalization cheating in such case.

Has your partner used any of these excuses on you? Tell your story below. 

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Why Do Cheaters Blame the Victim When Caught?:

The main Reason which is also the only Reason why do cheaters blame the victim because when the secret wall breaks down, they can't handle that in their mind and their ego faces a massive crisis and they can't accept the fact that they finally got caught cheating with someone else and their affair is not a secret anymore.

Its just the Survival instinct as Attack back in their own defense, They weaponize anger and turn it back on the betrayed partner ( e.g., " if you didn't come home quickly, we wouldn't have this problem" , or " If you didn't look through my phone, we wouldn't have this problem!" ) to avoid facing accountability and as an anger defense strategy and that's how cheaters justify their actions.

Conclusion:

The justifications are just a cowardly move by the cheaters to avoid breakups and deep conversations about their affair and excuses for infidelity, and the Psychology of a cheater is nothing but a thought in their own mind that whatever they are doing is right and they don't think once that by their such act they are actually hurting their spouse or loved ones mostly the cheaters who blame the victim is just another attempt to prove themselves right and avoid questions about their cheating and infidelity.

So, that's it from this article, one last thing to remember that a cheater's mental gymnastics are a reflection of their internal flaws, not the victim's worth.

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